I am not a journalist, nor a psychologist or counselor by trade. I am an athlete, a professional fitness competitor, a World Champion martial arts competitor, a fitness model and a business woman. But before any of the titles and trades, I am my parents’ daughter, someone’s friend, and God willing a future wife and mother. But of all these things, being a woman and a human being is what qualifies me most to write about what’s on my mind and most of all, inside my heart.
I have experienced many trials and tribulations in my short life; some more profound than any reader whose eyes grace this page, and some that pale in comparison. As a result of these life lessons I have learned many things. I have learned that our feet point forward for a very specific reason; to never look back other than to reflect on what we have learned from our stumbles and from our triumphs. I feel that so much time is wasted by trying to change others rather than fixing ourselves. I have learned that any word that does not bring life to ourselves or others, is idle and barren. I have learned that all things require practice and that wisdom does not come from age or experience, but from a well nourished spirit, true humility, and the manifestation of
strong faith.
My ultimate goal in life is to reach the minds, hearts, and spirits of all men, women and children. This would ideally redirect the altered and jaded mind-set that society has branded us into thinking that its view of “ideal” is the absolute. We have been force fed that fit, good-looking and materialistic is the road map to being perfect. Through mediums such as TV, magazines, music, movies, celebrity life voyeurism we have accepted as gospel all which is air-brushed, computer generated/altered, sung about, written in books, plastered on billboards, and shown on big screen, block-buster hits. We compromise ourselves everyday, conforming to this image that is a sheer apparition. It is easy for me to speak on behalf of this, as my likeness has been used for numerous publications and products. But the image is not a true representation of the depth of what lies within my spirit. The reason I am so passionate about this, is because I stumble just the same, finding myself hypnotized and captivated by life and the distractions that can pull me away from seeing what is truly there. What is truly there is truth, and the truth is what makes you perfect is the intangible you. It is your role in your daily walk through life, your dignity, your strength, your integrity, your trustworthy and enriching nature, your kindness, your cheerful giving, your wisdom, your prowess and preparedness. It is the depth of your core, the intangible you, that pillar of spiritual strength. You come fully equipped, naturally, to be perfect. You must be self aware of these “tools.” The tools is which you must keep sharp and on your person everyday. You simply just have to believe in yourself and the gifts your were given.
Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with pretty, thin, fit, handsome, or wealth; we all strive to attain higher heights in life. The issue is the worship of these things and why we want to attain them. Is it not that the majority of that ambition stems from coveting from your neighbor? ....to look like someone else, have what they have whether physical feature, person, or thing? Why do we compete with others for our desires only to find that it wasn’t at all what would bring true happiness, but rather just mere satisfaction of defeat? As to say, “anything you can do I can do better.” Why not instead say, “Anything I can do, I [myself] can do better.” Have goals of being the best of yourself everyday. Look within and find the true reasons you want to embark on your quest to gain whatever it is you have your sights set on. Do not get caught up in wanting to look like someone else or measure yourself against others. Remember your end result starts with your emotional and spiritual well being. You must believe in yourself first. Having the knowledge that you are already fully equipped with those intangibles I noted earlier will pave the way for your success. Stay consistent and elevate yourself above anything that adds unwanted “weight” in your life. Your strength will encourage and inspire others, which will in turn keep you motivated and your eyes on the true prize... you! The better of you, the best of who you were called to be.
